A bulling case took place in a Japanese suburb.

1. the incident and it's background.

Few weeks ago, my son, Michael was bullied.  It happened on October 25th, Tuesday, 2016.  My son was on the way to school with his regular “Going to school companions”.  Suddenly, he was “surrounded” (as he reported me later) by more than 3-4 kids including one 3rd grader boy and one 4th grader girl.   My son didn't know the 3rd grader boy.  The 4th grader girl…. It is second time that she raised her hand against Michael. Right after the last time incident, the school gave her strong instruction.  My son didn't do anything wrong that time, as well as this time.   


 - All the names are hypothetically settled.  This is what happened in Japan, with Japanese kids.


The main boy (the 3rd grader) accused Michael, "How dare you cast off Lorence! Why did you stop going to school with him!"

And Michael said, "My mom decided so.  I am sure she has good reasons."　

Then the bulling main boy (3rd grade) said " Do you do anything that mom tells you?  It is sometime important to be against her. What if she tells you to die?"

Ryo spoke back to them. "My mom would never tell me such a thing.  I trust her."

Then the 4th grade girl joined from here and said in a very strong tone to Michael "Why are you so sure?  It's possible."

Then Ryo got really scared, he tried to go ahead to school.

They grabbed him in his backpack and pushed and hit him in face.

My son, Michael is only 6 years old.  Did NOTHING wrong.


The boy they mentioned, Lorence, had committed some harassment against Ryo over for two years.  Lorence lives in the same condo as we do.  Most of the time, he was doing these things with his friends that live in a condominium that is located just across a street from ours. But some were done by himself.


Physical Action : they were all admitted by the action takers right after it happened, and the apologies were made each time. Lorence was always an action taker.

1. Lorence and his friend took Michael's foot ball, threw it off toward the car street and said, “You go and pick it up so a car can run over and kill you.” Then, they pushed Michael's shoulder and Michael, this time, for first time and last time, gave Lorence a kick as a fighting back.
2. In a spa, Lorence and his friend pushed Michael's head down into the water and sank him.
3. Daily small kick or stepping on Michael's hand.

Vocal action:

1. Telling other friends to ignore Michael.  Flighting them that if they play with Michael, Lorence and his friend will not be friends any more.
2. Casting Michael off from the play team.  One time, it happened right in front of me, and I talked to them.
3. When Lorence was playing with other kid’s family names, Michael said to Lorence, “Family name is the honour of his ancestors.  You shouldn't make fan of it.” Lorence said “hah?! ancestor?  What's that? Say that in three seconds.  1 2 3,  looser!”
4. Lorence gets really offensive when other kids and Michael do not want to play in his way.  He always put the flighting “if you play with LEGO you will never be allowed to play in my house.”
5. Lorence forced my son and other kids to grab some grasses otherwise he would stop being a friend.
6. Lorence ordered Michael to plunge some grasses into an ear.  Michael cried back home for pain, and had to rush into otolaryngologist to pull out the grass.

I decided to take some space between Michael and Lorence.

Michael and Lorence were going to school together everyday in a group of 6 boys.  So I sent an email to 3 others of the members, declaring clearly that I was addressing specifically to those three only.  “I think Michael needs to go to school earlier, so he can get prepared better for the study. I decided to sign off from the “Going to school companions”.  Having said that, I still do not want Michael to go to school alone, so I ask if any of you could go to school with Michael but in the 10 minutes earlier departure.” As a result, all three kids decided to go to school with Michael.  Four boys out of six signed off and a new “going to school companions” was formed.  The two that remained in the old companion, were not really friends.   It was exactly after 6 months passed after we started our school life. (In Japan, school starts from April) And it was indeed, a high time. Each kids made new friends, and had already variety in their socializations.  The first “going to school companion” was formed on my suggestion, and invitation, because I and my son were the only family that was connected to all of the 1st grader kids.  Others were completely strangers to each other. I just tried to serve the community.

So when four of us decided to sign off, it is also understandable that Lorence’s mother, Kate, could take it personally, and had a thought that Lorence was CAST OFF, somehow.

But it happened right after we discussed our problem especially the incident that happened in spa, I as a parent, expected her to know why the old "Going to school companions" was dismissed, and accept that fact sincerely, taking this chance for Lorence to learn to win back the trust.

So, on the second day of the new “going to school companions” was activated, the incident happened.  But the claim was pronounced from one 3rd grade boy that I nor Michael, didn't even know his name.  And Michael, was “punished”.